When Pursuit Fades Receiving No Longer Feels Like a Risk

Subject Line/Title:  When Pursuit Fades Receiving No Longer Feels Like a Risk

Preview:   Could the chase be the very thing keeping you from what you want?

The moment we believe something we’re pursuing will satisfy us, our body gives us fuel to go after it. It’s how we’re made. And for a while, it works perfectly.

But we’re not only drawn to what we want.

We become attached to chasing it.

It’s not just the desire that drives us.

It’s the pursuit itself that lights us up.

That chase triggers dopamine.

Each wave brings a rush of anticipation, excitement, and motion.

So we keep moving forward.

We stay busy.

We pour ourselves into doing more.

For some of us, when small signs of success begin to show up, uneasy thoughts sneak in. Sometimes we hear them. Other times they linger just beneath our awareness. Either way, they powerfully affect us.

“This won’t last.”

“It can’t be this easy.”

“I don’t deserve this.”

“Get ready. Something always goes wrong.”

And just like that, the joy of receiving is mixed with a backlash of shame, as if it’s somehow wrong to receive what we want.

That mix becomes a chemical cocktail of confusion.

And it can keep us stuck in a cycle of reaching, withholding, and denying ourselves exactly what we long for.

We stay in motion, not because we feel eager to move forward, but because slowing down feels unsafe.

We create resistance, not because we don’t want what we asked for, but because some part of us feels ashamed to be receiving even a piece of it.

Once dopamine gets mixed with shame, we often end up fueling the cycle of striving — rather than allowing ourselves to simply receive.

Admitting the pattern is what opens the door to the way out.

It begins with honesty.

To name what you truly want.

And to stop judging yourself for wanting it.

Wanting what you want doesn’t make you selfish.

It doesn’t make you wrong.

It makes you human.

It is from this place of acceptance that your mind begins to soften.

Your body starts to feel safer.

And you become a match for what you’ve been longing for all along.

Not because you worked harder or proved yourself.

But because you stopped resisting your own worth.

I help others gently uncover how they are either aligned with receiving or quietly creating patterns of resistance they didn’t even realize were there.

Together, we release the shame of wanting what you want.

We soften the chase.

And we create space to receive… deeply, joyfully, and without apology.

If you see yourself here, I get it and I know the way forward.

Feel welcome to reach out if you’d like more details.