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How Do You Fight Flight or Freeze?

September 16, 20251 min read

We all have survival habits that show up when feeling real or perceived threats. Some are obvious like anger, arguing, or walking away. Others are quiet like shutting down, withdrawing, going numb, or feeling stuck. 

As you look at the patterns below, notice which feel familiar. 

Simply noticing is the first step to freeing yourself from survival patterns that you once needed and that may now be holding you back.

Woman punching stance

Fight – Direct/Assertive Survival Response

Trigger: Perceived threat, challenge, or injustice

Internal External Experiences

Woman holding hands in Stop position

Flight – Avoidance/Escape Survival Response

Trigger: Fear, overwhelm, or threat of rejection/failure


Flight Trigger Chart

Woman holding her head

Freeze – Immobility/Withdrawal Survival Response

Trigger: Overwhelm, helplessness, or inability to respond

Overwhelm experiences

Take a moment to consider them a second time and notice the ways they protected you in the past.  Give yourself permission to appreciate how they once served you. 

Once you are complete, consider the possibility that they may no longer align with the relationships and life experience you intend. Simply acknowledging this is an important step in moving forward in ways that truly matter to you.


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Jodi Hinkle

With 20+ years in Corporate America, Jodi’s decision to embrace the creation of HerQuest is the cumulative result of her professional experience in developing strategic business relationships and her personal desire to Empower Women.

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About the Founder of HerQuest

Hi, my name is Jodi! I believe that there is only one mandatory ingredient to creating the life you want... It is to understand that your solution MUST include HAVING FUN! I believe each Woman's Quest includes FINDING THE INSPIRATION OF JOY in order to build a personal HAPPILY EVER AFTER!